Embracing the current reality is often a prerequisite for it to change for you. This is mostly regarding the inner reality of you – which determines what you do physically. You must accept the current long-term energetic state you’re in for it to change into something else.

When you genuinely accept reality, you no longer want it to be different. You’re truly fine with what is. This state is precisely what enables inner reality to morph freely.

If you REALLY want change, stop wanting it. Process it, cry it out if needed and become free of it. Surrender it to God. Admit that you don’t love Reality right now but you want to. Enter into the love.

It’s key that you don’t go through this with the hidden intention still intact to change reality. You must REALLY let go of your unacceptance. Do it for love and the wish to be free and light. Free from your wanting, not from how reality is for you now.

Radical acceptance is the key to profound change.

Sometimes you can feel stuck and realize that you don’t even want to unstuck yourself. You feel resistance towards it altogether. You’re tired, you’re stuck, you just don’t know what to do.

I understand this state. I’ve been in it myself many times. It can feel like there’s no way out because you feel like you don’t even want to resolve it.

First, you can accept that you’re in that state. How about you relax and just love it? At least for a moment – see it for what it is and accept it. Get the feeling that it’s okay and that you don’t need to change it.

Second, this whole situation is probably making you feel frustrated. In that case, express the frustration to Reality/God and cry it out. Vent the entire thing – you can even scream into a pillow. Do it until there’s nothing left. You will probably feel much lighter after you do so.

Give yourself space. You will get through it.

Sometimes frustration will arise when Reality works through you in a different direction from what you’d prefer.

I understand that feeling. It can be difficult sometimes.

The solution is to surrender this frustration to Reality/God and cry it out. It’s something you can reliably do. You have to understand that this feeling is a pain/weakness that you can vent to God about and let yourself be helped with. It’s not anything “righteous”, not something to act upon.

Don’t boil it inside too long, or it will get out of control. Express it to God until it’s no longer and be free of it.

What you want comes to you most easily from a place of lightness. From not caring about getting it.

When you’re desperate, you’re not being magnetic. If you notice yourself in such a state, try to surrender it. Know that it is literally counter-productive. If you really want it, then stop caring about it so much! Send out your intention into the world and then genuinely let it go. Enter a state of being actually happy in the current moment, with what is.

“If you’re nothing without it, then you shouldn’t have it.”

A person is cool when they 1) follow their heart confidently and 2) don’t concern themselves with insignificant stuff.

In essence, you are cool when you’re moving from a place of lightness. Your Self is guiding you freely towards what you most genuinely want and deep inside you feel like everything is alright, thus you’re confident and unworried. In contrast, when you’re constristed, you are not letting yourself be guided, you’re micromanaging and latching on to a sense of control desperately – which is making you neurotic, worried and stressed.

Loosen up. Give up your desperate insistence on things. Surrender and go with how your being is guided in reality instead. Things that are truly relevant will come to you effortlessly then.

That’s just how cool people do it. 8)

Can you be happy with the place you’re at in life currently?

If you’re suffering due to feeling stuck and “inability to change”, accepting the current state is at least part of your answer. Love the current reality of you, however difficult it may be. Being content with this reality is a prerequisite to moving forward. First accept what already is, then life will be able to give you more.

• Suffering due to not having a gf/bf? Love your current reality of being single first.
• Suffering due to not being able to get a new job? Love the reality of being in this phase.
• Suffering due to continual heavy, even depressive states? Try loving the reality of your reoccurring state. I understand this might not be a full solution (and it’s really difficult), but I’ve been going through something like it for long periods of time too. Loving it is a good step forward – and again, a prerequisite to change I believe.

A deeper motivation is doing it for the sake of it. Not because you want reality to change, but because you genuinely want to love what is. That’s what being love is about.

Essentially, your energy starts to morph/flow once it is acknowledged for what it is currently. And when it’s resisted and denied, it freezes in place. “What you resist persists”.