A person is cool when they 1) follow their heart confidently and 2) don’t concern themselves with insignificant stuff.
In essence, you are cool when you’re moving from a place of lightness. Your Self is guiding you freely towards what you most genuinely want and deep inside you feel like everything is alright, thus you’re confident and unworried. In contrast, when you’re constristed, you are not letting yourself be guided, you’re micromanaging and latching on to a sense of control desperately – which is making you neurotic, worried and stressed.
Loosen up. Give up your desperate insistence on things. Surrender and go with how your being is guided in reality instead. Things that are truly relevant will come to you effortlessly then.
That’s just how cool people do it. 8)