Whatever you’re doing, do it with love. Go into it deeply. Be engaged.
No matter if it’s working at your job, doing the dishes, having a conversation with your loved one, exercising, just laying on your bed doing nothing. What if you embraced this – what’s currently being done, and went into it fully?
Do it for yourself. Do it for love. Infuse spirit into your daily life.
In the end, nothing else matters in life but love. Give up the life you’re living if it isn’t about love, and switch to one where you do love intensely. Do what you LOVE. Whatever that means for you, go with it.
Seriously, because what ELSE is there to do?
Start living to your fullest. There is no time to waste.
You can’t do one thing in the same way a hundred times and expect yourself or your partner to still feel loved through that act. Love requires variety in what you do, and/or how you do it. Doing something always the same way shows that you’re following some sort of schema and not pouring spirit into your love.
This is why it’s important to act on love consciously, not mechanically. When you act consciously, you’re unbounded from following rigid schemas. Lively intelligence guides you towards doing things a bit differently each time.
So play with love, express it zestfully and unboundedly. Infuse your acts of love with life, energy, consciousness! Making each one unique and vibrant. It’s these acts that are really felt by the other person.
How frequent should the nurturing of love be? It depends of course, but very likely: daily. You can’t act on the energy of love once a week/month and expect a warm, lively relationship with your partner or yourself.
I think it’s more obvious when we’re talking about a relationship between two people. But what about when you’re single and the love you’re giving is to yourself? It’s much easier then to forget that a more frequent acting on the energy of love is necessary. Seriously, if you have both the experience of being in a relationship and then of being single later, think about how much you were acting on love in the relationship vs then afterwards when being by yourself. The contrast you might observe can be very big. The conclusion is that the amount of love you are giving to yourself when you’re single might not be enough, which can make you feel lonely and lacking, and make you think that you need another person to alleviate your lack of love.
Remember that love can be nurtured through little gestures. It’s not just about the big things. Think about what small things you could be doing for yourself to express your love – e.g. writing loving sticky notes for yourself, having a comforting daily ritual, acting every day on what you want most but you’re resisting, smiling at yourself in the mirror every time you see yourself. Pay attention to what “works” (do you feel loved by the gesture?) and do these things out of love. (Not out of routine. It can’t be mechanical.)
When you truly love somebody, you want to give them what they most deeply want. You want to support them in the realization of their dreams, in advancing on their unique path of life, thus leading them to happiness. This is what love is about.
But this dynamic doesn’t just happen between two people. It also happens between you and your own energetic system. When you really want to change in some way and you send out your plea to the universe (by feeling into and surrendering it in the moment), your dream eventually starts coming true, through appropriate energy arising from within you. The energetic reality of you starts changing in accordance with what you wished for. And that newly arising energy IS LOVE! That’s what YOU WANTED, and that’s what YOU’RE GETTING!
Dreams do come true. And it’s literally through love. Anytime motivation/energy arises in you to do something related to what you want in your life, you are BEING LOVED.
Note: Remember that embracing the current energetic reality of you is usually the prerequisite for it changing (post). This is why I said that you need to feel into your wish and surrender it in the moment, which means loving the reality without it. So in a way, when you SEND out love (for what’s the case now), you RECEIVE love back (through reality changing, energy arising from within you). You get what you give – which is beautiful and fair. Reality is truly the perfect teacher.
Today was my birthday. I felt very loved by myself and people close to me. I’m grateful to be alive.
My deepest wish is to always love Reality for whatever it is. Embrace what is now and go from there. I believe that is what happiness is.
Thank You for how You are now. Thank You for being. I’m sorry I can’t love You always. I wish it could be otherwise, but then again, that’d be not accepting You for what You are once more. So to hell with that – just move through me.
I love You.
If you’re a true lover, you are genuinely interested in that which you love.
I invite you to be a profound lover of Reality. Have a sincere interest in what’s around you. Be fascinated by other people, listen to their stories & what moves them. Notice how whoever you give honest attention to and let them speak their mind, opens up and blossoms in front of your eyes. Reality flowers when you give it attention. It’s a beautiful thing.
Perhaps most importantly, be curious of the reality of you. Your Self blossoms when you simply observe It and let yourself do things. It’s a spectacular unfolding to witness.
To make love flow, you must open your heart to anything that arises and welcome it.
Distressing feelings can arise frequently. When you have time, focus and let yourself process them freely. Don’t run away until they’re dissolved. Stay with them for as long as it takes.
Keep track of how you’re feeling during the day. If something started tormenting you, process it immediately or plan a time for doing so. Don’t become numb to it.
Repeatedly cleanse your heart from barriers to your love. It’s the only way to move on from things and be light and happy.
You can set up regular heart cleansing sessions for yourself. You’ll be better mentally prepared when it’s scheduled. A question you can ask is: “What wishes to go into my heart that I’ve been running from?”.
If you love it, act properly towards it consistently.
Love comes along with a responsibility. You have to own up to the challenge of love. When loving action calls you but it’s resisted and a voice in your head is screaming, always go with love anyway. Don’t hesitate. Actualize your love!
Ultimately, you are Love. It’s your essence. So act like it. Being what you are is your duty.
Love that isn’t cultivated, withers.
If you care about it, pay attention to it and nurture it consistently. This rules applies to anything in life. Lack of engaged attention kills a relationship, skill, mental faculty, object, being. Attention is the life force – if you love it, give it life.
Beware of forgetfulness and inattention. You blink and a previously loving relationship with yourself or your romantic partner is in the dumpster now, due to your negligence. Don’t let that happen.
In love, you want to both give it and receive it. And it’s not much of a difference whether 1) you give love to another person and they give it back to you or 2) you give love to yourself. You can feel loved either way. Both can satisfy you.
It’s usually less intuitive to give yourself love though. It’s also more difficult to register feedback. Did you really feel loved through what you did for yourself? Remember that love is about giving the other what THEY want to receive, not what YOU want to give. This is an issue as much when it’s about giving love to yourself as when it’s about giving it to another. It’s quite difficult to hear your true voice sometimes. It takes real awareness.
When you’re single, practice giving love to yourself. If you really want to get good at it and feel the love, you have to pay great attention to what you do and how you feel afterwards. Does buying yourself flowers “work”? Does writing compliments to yourself on sticky notes “work”? Does taking action on what you really wish to be doing “work”?
The key to success in any love is proper intention (to make the other feel loved) + sharp attention.