A person that hurt you couldn’t have acted differently from how they did. Because how they acted was truth/reality. And truth cannot be any different from what it is/was in the moment.

There’s only one way in which Reality is unfolding. It’s what’s happening now. It’s Fate, always.

Don’t count on people changing and stop resenting them for acting how they did in the past. It couldn’t have been otherwise. The path to your emotional freedom is to accept what is/was and stay in that love always.

(This doesn’t mean you should excuse toxic behaviour. Your actions/feelings are Fate too, so if you decide to no longer be around someone, then that’s what it is.)

“When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. […] And you look at the tree and you allow it. […] You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. […] And so I practice turning people into trees, which means appreciating them just the way they are.” – Ram Dass

Feeling lonely stems from a lack of loving attention on yourself. Other people can relieve that by giving you their attention, but you can also do it by yourself.

The key insight is that all attention is the same. It doesn’t matter if it comes from you or someone else. All attention is identical in it’s nature – so get rid of the notion that only other people can help you with loneliness.

Learn to give yourself loving attention. Listen to yourself. Give yourself space to express your feelings. Do what makes you genuinely feel loved.

Be there for yourself and for others. Also, let others be there for you when they offer it.

Notice your delusionality. How you start thinking that things will go a certain way. How you force yourself into things because you’re just sure that it’s what you want now. How you become engrossed in the narratives you spin.

Bring that to awareness again and again. You’re constantly delusional and you can’t seem to change it. It must be frustrating. Cry it out if you feel like it.

There comes a point when you stop judging it though. You understand it in yourself and feel compassion for others who are like it. 

If you made mistakes from delusion, have mercy on yourself and let the regret go. It couldn’t have happened differently. There’s nothing to do but learn from it and surrender it.

Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for poor choices. Forgive yourself for delusionality.

In truth, all your choices were loved. Because they happened. And Reality is Love.