Sometimes you might notice yourself hyping yourself up in the direction of something you want to get to. It’s like you want to speed up your development process by insisting a thing on yourself.

It may feel harmless when you’re insisting on something “good” and positive. Let’s say you’re past a bad breakup which you haven’t fully processed yet and you’re saying to yourself: “We don’t need them! We’re good by ourselves, it’s going to be amazing! I am feeling just fine right now!”.

But maybe you’re not feeling fine and you do in fact feel like you need them. It’s better to come back to just acknowledging reality again and again, instead of forcing something that’s not yet the case.

Watch out for telling yourself things like:

• “Everything is fine. I’m going to be alright!” – when you’re severely emotionally distressed.
• “I do want to find a new job! I do want to earn more! It’s entirely possible for me!” – when you feel zero actual motivation to look for a new job and nothing is being done by you in reality.
• “I will find myself a new girlfriend! I am worthy! It’s certain that I will meet the right person eventually!” – when you’re feeling unworthy, lonely, needy and desperate deep inside.

Notice the discrepancy between what’s insisted vs the reality.

Hyping something up doesn’t make it true. You can’t force change into existence. The only path to real growth is through loving and embracing what is currently the case – only then will the truth about you morph into something new.

Mind sometimes wants to hide away a thing it’s attached to that is resisted somehow, but won’t throw the thing away – it wants to still have access to it. Distance something, yet have it within reach.

It’s a funny dynamic. To wish to forget something, but still truly remember it. An intermingling of resistance and attachment.

I was made aware of it when I noticed myself stash away some things related to my last relationship in the deepest drawer. Once I became conscious of it, I took these things and put them out on front. To face resistance and difficult feelings. Soon, there might come a time to face the attachment and throw these things out for good – I will go wherever intuition guides me.