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  • Psychedelics Are an Introvert’s Dream Come True

    In my view, there is no better way to profoundly come back to your depth than by going on an intentional, focused psychedelic trip. If you’re doing it right, you deeply reconnect with your existential nature and bask in the utter vibrance and recognition of yourself. Which is, I think, what the introvert longs for.

    Obviously you can’t do it too much. You shouldn’t force it or do it out of desperation. You must have right intention – a genuine, loving sense that you want to come back to yourself. And of course you must be very careful and respect the protocol, so that things don’t go sideways. Psychedelics are no joke, but they are a very useful tool that works if you want to profoundly see yourself again.

    It’s okay to like psychedelics. And it’s okay to admit that to yourself. Just don’t go bragging about it to people that aren’t going to get it. You can have a sweet little secret with yourself, and possibly some individual folks that will understand.

    There are many other ways to take a step back to your depth. 99% of the time you will be using those other techniques – like going on a walk in nature, reading a book in silence, and so on. It’s just that this one is extremely potent – but its use should be limited and treated with caution. Once a month MAXIMUM should suffice for you.

    Again, keep in mind you should be only doing it from genuine light intention, not out of desperation/need. Don’t treat it as a crutch – see it as a possibility to come back to your Godhood once more, if you truly wish so. Do it from a position of being content with what’s HERE NOW, not trying to escape.

    This last point is crucial – don’t run away from your daily life, embrace it. Inspect your intentions carefully, so that you don’t treat psychedelics as an escape and become addicted.

  • As an Introvert, Go Back to Your Depth Regularly

    If you’re an introvert, make sure you dedicate enough time to being in your depth. Come back to yourself regularly – otherwise you will feel unbalanced and hollow.

    This is serious. Respect your introverted nature. Even if the world (or: you!) is inflicting pressure on you to be more social and go out more or something, and you don’t feel like it, make sure that you stand up for yourself and carve out time for regeneration. Treat yourself with high regard. This is your genuine need and it’s important.

    Going back to your depth might mean different things: reading a book in silence, going on a walk in the wood, laying on your bed listening to music, having a deep conversation with your friend, going on a silent and focused psychedelic trip. Whatever floats your boat. Be aware of what regenerates you and allocate time for that intentionally.

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  • Kindness Is the Real Punk Rock

    High energy, positivity, hope, lightness, kindness, compassion is cool.

    Inspire yourself to be that.

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  • Amuse Yourself In Life

    Find ways to amuse yourself in everyday life. Find out and come back to things/perspectives that you genuinely find funny. The more “basic” they are, in that you see them very often, the better!

    Here are some examples: I find birds dorky and I can’t help but laugh at them. The way they look physically and how they walk with their heads bopping is so funny to me, haha. Another thing could be: just looking at humans and seeing them as these weird creatures, or monkeys. Imagine you enter the perspective of an alien who doesn’t know anything about humanity. The daily behaviour of humans is actually very funny – like, what the fuck is everyone doing?! Really try to enter this perspective, I recommend it. And lastly: people getting worked up over petty things, like getting angry over traffic. I can’t contain my laughter when I see it.

    Know what you find funny and have these amusing ways of viewing the world at your disposal. Also, just be aware of what type of humour you have, and then surround yourself with memes/objects aligned with that humour. You can set your funniest memes as your phone wallpaper, or even print them out and stick them to your wall. Or buy yourself a T-shirt with a slogan that genuinely makes you laugh. Seriously, amuse yourself!

    It’s important to have laughter in your life. You can make a deliberate effort to bring it in and lighten yourself up in the long-term.

    P.S. How to find out what you find funny? Primarily by being observant. The more aware you are of your surroundings constantly, the more little things you’ll notice, some of which are bound to spark laughter in you when you then think about them.

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  • Lift People Up (by Being Grounded in Yourself)

    Be someone who lifts up people around you. It means 1) emanating with positive energy and 2) having the strength to be grounded in it around others. Giving others the opportunity to rise up to your energy, instead of falling down yourself.

    The primary beneficiary of you being positive and solidly grounded in your energy is of course: You. So that’s reason enough to do it. But you’re also serving others when doing so – and for me that’s quite inspiring.

    Whether people are actually lifted up or not depends mainly on them, of course. Some people will unconsciously start exerting pressure over you and try to bring you down when you’re in a high positive state around them. They might even become hostile – most will try to cover it up and be passive aggressive, the more unhinged ones will display it openly. It’s best to approach situations like this tactfully and either try to soften these people up skillfully, or leave them, change your environment. Sometimes it’s really best to just change your surroundings and avoid interacting with people who have their demons on full display.

    Other people will be more receptive and it’s these folks that it’s worth to be around. Strive to be around people who are on a similar wavelength to you. You’ll be lifting them up more easily – and since they’re similar, they’ll probably be lifting you up as well.

    It’s a joy to feel that you have a positive influence on your world. Just keep in mind that you’ll probably only influence the part of the world that is already open to it.

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  • Inspire Others by Example

    Be an example of what you’d like to see in the world more. You will then inspire others with your actualized nature. Your vibrant spirit will spread into the minds of others, awakening a facet of God in them related to what you chose to be.

    Consider that people mostly learn by example – monkey see, monkey do. And most people don’t have good examples. By being something beautiful, you are making people realize that it’s really possible and that they could be that beauty too.

    Also, consider that you shouldn’t expect others to be what you yourself even aren’t. Otherwise, you’re a hypocrite.

    If you genuinely wish there was peace in the world, for example, YOU be Peace. What does it mean to be Peace, in practice? Think about it and truly internalize it in your life. Show others the way!

    Personally, I want to be Hope / Light / Inspiration / Positivity. It’s a long work-in-progress, but I’m taking steps each day. I genuinely want to be it and I want to see more of it in the world. I want to inspire Hope in others.

    Find out what YOU want to inspire most deeply and become it yourself.

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  • Love Requires Variety, Which Arises With Mindfulness

    You can’t do one thing in the same way a hundred times and expect yourself or your partner to still feel loved through that act. Love requires variety in what you do, and/or how you do it. Doing something always the same way shows that you’re following some sort of schema and not pouring spirit into your love.

    This is why it’s important to act on love consciously, not mechanically. When you act consciously, you’re unbounded from following rigid schemas. Lively intelligence guides you towards doing things a bit differently each time.

    So play with love, express it zestfully and unboundedly. Infuse your acts of love with life, energy, consciousness! Making each one unique and vibrant. It’s these acts that are really felt by the other person.

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  • Nurture Love Consistently p.2

    How frequent should the nurturing of love be? It depends of course, but very likely: daily. You can’t act on the energy of love once a week/month and expect a warm, lively relationship with your partner or yourself.

    I think it’s more obvious when we’re talking about a relationship between two people. But what about when you’re single and the love you’re giving is to yourself? It’s much easier then to forget that a more frequent acting on the energy of love is necessary. Seriously, if you have both the experience of being in a relationship and then of being single later, think about how much you were acting on love in the relationship vs then afterwards when being by yourself. The contrast you might observe can be very big. The conclusion is that the amount of love you are giving to yourself when you’re single might not be enough, which can make you feel lonely and lacking, and make you think that you need another person to alleviate your lack of love.

    Remember that love can be nurtured through little gestures. It’s not just about the big things. Think about what small things you could be doing for yourself to express your love – e.g. writing loving sticky notes for yourself, having a comforting daily ritual, acting every day on what you want most but you’re resisting, smiling at yourself in the mirror every time you see yourself. Pay attention to what “works” (do you feel loved by the gesture?) and do these things out of love. (Not out of routine. It can’t be mechanical.)

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  • Dreams Come True (And That’s Love!)

    When you truly love somebody, you want to give them what they most deeply want. You want to support them in the realization of their dreams, in advancing on their unique path of life, thus leading them to happiness. This is what love is about.

    But this dynamic doesn’t just happen between two people. It also happens between you and your own energetic system. When you really want to change in some way and you send out your plea to the universe (by feeling into and surrendering it in the moment), your dream eventually starts coming true, through appropriate energy arising from within you. The energetic reality of you starts changing in accordance with what you wished for. And that newly arising energy IS LOVE! That’s what YOU WANTED, and that’s what YOU’RE GETTING!

    Dreams do come true. And it’s literally through love. Anytime motivation/energy arises in you to do something related to what you want in your life, you are BEING LOVED. 

    Note: Remember that embracing the current energetic reality of you is usually the prerequisite for it changing (post). This is why I said that you need to feel into your wish and surrender it in the moment, which means loving the reality without it. So in a way, when you SEND out love (for what’s the case now), you RECEIVE love back (through reality changing, energy arising from within you). You get what you give – which is beautiful and fair. Reality is truly the perfect teacher.

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  • Wisdom Is Relative to Life Conditions

    A person living in Somalian slums will develop a different wisdom (= internalized skillful manner of navigating life) from a person living in a rich neighbourhood in the US. If these people suddenly switched locations, both would have great difficulty in expertly adjusting to their new worlds and “gaming the system” there.

    Every person has a wisdom/system which was built up in response to their specific environment – society, family, friends they were surrounded with, events taking place in the world at that point in time. Isn’t that amazing? It’s like we’re clay that fits in to the shape of the mold we were in. Then you go to a different place, you leave your mold, but the shape largely remains.

    Everyone’s shapes have molds that influenced them, but usually we only see the person’s shape. If we knew the molds, we’d understand better.

  • Wish for Lightness, Not for Objects of Desire

    When you catch yourself wishing for “something you don’t have”, stop. You’re not accepting reality and you’re insisting on diving deeper into that state. You’re emanating with lack.

    Recognize this and switch gears – instead, shift to loving what’s here and now. If it’s difficult to enter this new state, wish to free yourself of this unacceptance and to love reality the way that it is. Wish to get this lack and suffering out of your system, wish to appreciate the beauty of what’s here, wish to surrender and be free from what you desire.

    Let go of what you think you lack (falsehood) for the sake of what’s your current reality – which is what you have (truth). Embracing what’s real is lightness.

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  • The Eclypse of the Heart Phenomenon

    At some point, an energetic decision can happen in you where you start to reject processing your feelings. You might get the sense that you’re tired of the endless things coming up from inside you. You might start hating that emotional part of you. You might feel just completely resistant and in opposition to yourself and this emotional reality, thinking that it’s a burden on you and that you’d be better off without it. I call it the Eclypse of the Heart phenomenon.

    It’s a dangerous place to be in. As it goes on, you will probably feel more and more hollow, stuck and meaningless, seeing life as this never-ending nightmare and constant suffering. After a while you might even want to kill yourself. And you could be stuck in it for weeks, months or even years, not realizing what has even gone wrong.

    At its source is a deep rejection of the energetic reality of yourself. A disconnection from what you are – splitting yourself off. The part you’re rejecting is the reality of you, and so what you end up with is being a hollow ghost without truth to yourself, feeling powerless against reality and life that you’re in opposition to.

    Look, I’ve been there, I know it can be really difficult. But don’t close yourself off to feeling. It’s not worth it. As Rumi once said: “I know you’re tired, but come, this is the way.”

    Open your heart to feeling once more. Accept things for what they are. Embrace the reality of you. And don’t give in to thoughts of rejection – have faith that working with what’s true about you will bring you to genuine happiness. Deeply at your core, wish for doing exactly that.

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  • Channel and Tell Yourself Uncomfortable Truths

    Part of being your own masculine counsel is channeling and telling yourself things that you don’t necessarily want to hear but you feel like you should. These are often uncomfortable truths that you’re resistant to even say out loud.

    Have the courage to say them. Take your personal red pills. It’s healthy for you.

    I think we often fear that an uncomfortable truth will invalidate everything we know, thus “killing” us (that’s how fear feels like). In my experience, such insights are usually half-truths which serve as counterbalance to that which you’re already embracing. You’ll be integrating them with the rest of your understanding that still has validity, and by taking them in, you get a fuller picture. It makes your mind more complete. So face your fear – you’re not going to “die”.

    But even supposing that a truth invalidated everything you know… Well, then all you “knew” wasn’t truth to begin with. So fuck it, kill it all with fire and don’t look back. Trust that you’ll be fine, because you really will be. You’ll be more alive than ever.

    Channel brutal personal truths and rejoice in accepting them. It’s the path to your mind’s integrity, health and wisdom.

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  • Godliness in Changing Between Positions of Listening vs Appealing

    Listening and appealing to yourself are two distinct positions from which you can support yourself. Can you be in each one?

    You are this multi-sided god with 1) the ability to switch your main current face to a different one in case of need, and 2) the wisdom/intuition to know which one is appropriate to switch to in a given circumstance. So depending on what you require – having your feelings released and listened to, or having your energy raised and sense spoken into you – swap your position/face.

    The many-sidedness of you is godliness. Be an intelligent, resourceful, self-healing god. Give yourself what you need.

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  • Supporting Through Listening vs Remedying

    Two main ways to support yourself/others are:

    1. Listening -> Intaking one’s energy; stooping to their level and connecting emotionally. When you connect AND show an accepting attitude (“It’s okay that you feel this way; I understand”), this helps the person to also accept and thus process the state/feelings.
    2. Remedying -> Outputting your energy; inspiring someone to get them to rise to a higher level. Showing them a different path – an energetic solution to reframing things and feeling lighter. More here.

    There’s the stereotype that when a woman talks about her problem, a man will jump in with solutions, making the woman feel unheard. There’s also the opposite stereotype of a man feeling bothered by something and keeping to himself trying to fix it, while his woman insists on getting him to talk about his feelings to her. In both stereotypes the parties are misunderstanding each other’s needs. In general, men prefer fixing their and others’ problems, while women want to connect and be connected with.

    In truth, you most likely need both ways of support. Develop an intuition for what type of support you need in the moment. Learn to give yourself each one in accordance with your needs – either by yourself or by contacting someone who will help you with it (a parent, friend, psychologist, etc.). Also, when helping another person, be sensitive to what type of support they need instead of just stupidly pushing your way. It’s a matter of sensitivity and balance, no matter if the support is for another or yourself.

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