Sexual energy is an energetic component of what I am. If a sexual drive arises in you, this energy is a component of you too.
Sexual energy can be integrated into normal character. It’s not about walking around horny and in need of actual sex all the time, it’s about integrating this energy’s expression into your natural daily life – for it’s own sake, even when nobody is around!
The key thing is that sexual energy is a genuine component of you. It’s yours, and it’s expression can be unique to you. I think it’s important to learn how to express it authentically. If you’re struggling with that: instead of asking “How to be sexy?”, ask “What does it mean for ME to be sexy?”. And then acting authentically from that energy can be practiced.
I want to emphasize again that sexual energy is not only about getting physical sex. I think its expression is a joy in and of itself. Being sexual is beautiful. It’s about how you express yourself in the world, what your attitude to it is; the things you say and in what style, your sense of humour, how you handle yourself, the clothing choices you make. It’s being uniquely you.