A person that hurt you couldn’t have acted differently from how they did. Because how they acted was truth/reality. And truth cannot be any different from what it is/was in the moment.
There’s only one way in which Reality is unfolding. It’s what’s happening now. It’s Fate, always.
Don’t count on people changing and stop resenting them for acting how they did in the past. It couldn’t have been otherwise. The path to your emotional freedom is to accept what is/was and stay in that love always.
(This doesn’t mean you should excuse toxic behaviour. Your actions/feelings are Fate too, so if you decide to no longer be around someone, then that’s what it is.)
“When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. […] And you look at the tree and you allow it. […] You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. […] And so I practice turning people into trees, which means appreciating them just the way they are.” – Ram Dass